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My husband & I are in the process of adopting. We have completed the home study and are just waiting for a birth mother to let us help her create a life plan. Any financial help you could donate would be truly appreciated.
Cindy & Peter
To whom it may concern:
My name is Peter and my wife’s name is Cynthia and we are writing this letter requesting finical aid to adopt a child. It has been such a long and costly road to get where we are now and to have something like money as a bump in the road is to say the least, frustrating! My wife and I will be married 7 years in September. Pretty much since the honeymoon, we have tried to have a child. After about a year with no success, we went to see a fertility doctor who informed us that it was going to be very difficult to conceive a child on our own. So, we decided to try this doctor who was highly recommended by a lot of people. Four years and a lot of money later, we found ourselves without a child and very tired from the ordeal. But we never gave up hope! We took about six months off and went back to trying the old fashion way. We wanted time for all the medications to ware off. We have always known that if we could not conceive a child, we would adopt a child and here we are. Through this whole process, we have always kept high spirits and had the highest hope that someday we will have a child.
Through the years we have always tried to save any kind of money we can but I’m sure like a lot of people that seems to get harder every year.
Both my wife and I come from loving, friendly, caring, funny families, and we want to continue that tradition and start a few of our own.
I am a salesman with a truck parts company and Cynthia is a 4th grade teacher. We both make a living. But, the last seven years of trying to have a child have been costly and the times we live in are also very costly.
When we first got married we lived with my mother. A year later, we moved my 85 year old grandfather in because he needed to be around family as it was getting difficult for him to take care of himself. He is still alive and is now 90 years old. Of course we still contribute to the mortgage of the house and all the bills. My mother is 60 and works at a hospital. Even though we moved out about 2 years ago, we still financially help out with the mortgage on the house and always give her money for anything else she needs. My mother is a proud woman and it was hard for us to get her to take the money. But as I told her, “Pops (that’s what I call my grandfather) raised her, and tried to give her what she needed and now he needs us.” We feel the same way. We all take care of each other. She is 60 and coming close to retirement. She has worked hard her whole life. As a single mother, she struggled to raise my sister and myself. She should have a little more than she does and we are very happy to give it to her.
We also contribute to the well being of Cynthia’s step-father. We lost her mom a couple of years ago to cancer. Our parents are very similar. They both struggled to support a family. Cynthia has financially supported her parents since she was in the Army. Every month she gives her parents money to make ends meet. Even though her mother has passed away, she still helps her step father as he raised her. He is retired and living on a fixed income. Social security does not cover the bills.As for our plans after the adoption, Cynthia will take her maternity leave for 3 months. After her maternity leave we will have to hire a babysitter for the daytime which will cost anywhere from $800.00 – $1,200.00 a month. In 3 years, my mother is going to retire and take care of her grandson or granddaughter during the day like my grandmother did for my sister and me. We are all very excited about that!
We feel very blessed to have the life we have and the careers we pursue. Like Cynthia always tells her students, “even the strongest person needs help once in a while, and you should never be afraid to ask.” I think if more people asked for help and allowed people to help them we would all be closer.
We would greatly appreciate any help you could give us. Family is very important to us. Any financial assistance you can provide would only make that dream a little easier and one step closer. We thank you for your time and consideration. As I said at the beginning of this letter we always keep high spirits and the highest of hopes that someday we will have a child.
Peter and Cynthia